Does prayer require a secret formula to get through to God?

Does prayer require a secret formula to get through to God? Is there anything in life as exciting as prayer? And yet, we single people have managed to turn it into a chore, haven't we? If we don't get what we ask God for, we have to forceourselves to keep praying for it. When you think about the privilege of communicating with God, however, the idea is truly overwhelming, even when you feel frustrated at times. To look at the night sky, the trees, mountains, oceans, and other people on this planet then to realize that the Being who created everything wants to talk with you, personally, intimately, is almost too much to grasp. How are your conversations with God going, as a single? Do you talk with him as much as you should? Have your career, busyness, and worries crowded these conversations out of your life? Have you felt the same frustration I have, because it seems as if God never answers? What I learned about prayer Being a fairly methodical person, several years ago I decided to get to the bottom of prayer. I set out to learn as much as I could, and I gave myself five years to do it. I read every book I could find on the subject. I read magazine articles, newspaper articles, talked with people, and of course, plumbed the Bible. I studied books by men and women who were recognized experts on prayer, but I also went through new books that contained radical theories. At times my research became hopelessly confusing. Much of the material was contradictory. Some of it bordered on downright weird. When my five-year study was done, I came to one unassailable conclusion: Prayer is talking with God. In addition, I gained some insight into what our job is not when we pray: Our job is not to bargain with God. We're not hagglers at a bazaar. Our job is not to persuade God. We're not lawyers in a courtroom. Our job is not to convince God. We're not traveling salesmen. Our job is not to plead with God. We're not beggars on a street corner. Through the saving death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, our position is adopted sons and daughters of God. That means God is our caring, loving Father. Our job, then, as sons and daughters, is to request from our Father God in a spirit of respect and humility. What? No secrets? Maybe you're disappointed. At first, I was too. But the more I thought about my finding, the more I liked it. It made good sense. It was perfectly in keeping with what Jesus taught in the Bible. And best of all, it took much of the mystery and fear out of prayer. God isn't playing games. He's too loving and holy for that. He doesn't lay down a complicated set of criteria before he'll listen to us. He doesn't listen more intently to religious celebrities than he does to you and me. And he doesn't reserve prayer for huge, crisis situations. The concept that prayer is talking with God makes some Christians nervous. They like to believe that you have to be spotless from sin, completely holy and clean before God will listen to you. That's not what Jesus said. In his parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector praying in the temple (Luke 18:10-14), he said that the Pharisee bragged about how he was better than sinners, how he followed all the rituals so he would be pleasing to God. The tax collector, in contrast, said "God have mercy on me, a sinner." Then Jesus said, "I tell you that this man (tax collector), rather than the other (Pharisee), went home justified before God. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted." Certainly God does want us to confess our sins to him and repent for them. But if only spotless, sinless people were qualified to pray, God would have a lot of time on his hands.   How to pray better, live happier... Every month, our FREE popular ezine, Inspire-O-Gram, gives you down-to-earth tips on how to be happier as a single Christian. You'll find articles you can put to use immediately, our monthly inspirational or funny poem, a quotation on that month's topic, and our exclusive tool for change, The Rut Disruptor. To subscribe, just fill out the easy form below...